UPSC exam in only to make a career. Failure in exam is not final. One can try again or take up other careers. Ending life for an exam is stupid. Finally, career is not the only thing in life.
CHENNAI: It was the dream of Anu (28), a native of Salem who lived with her doctor sister in Chennai, to be a civil servant. But when the dream could not come true even after two attempts, she ended her life by hanging herself with a nylon saree.
Read more: Failed to clear civil service exam; woman commits suicide in the city – The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/chennai/Failed-to-clear-civil-service-exam-woman-commits-suicide-in-the-city/articleshow/6702606.cms#ixzz13pL5xJgS
What to do When you fail:
1) Don t take it personally, it is not about you, everybody fails (ie I used to interview 5 people for 1 position which means, 4 nos for 1 yes!)
2) Ask for feedback all the time to understand precisely where you failed
3) Write down the points you need to improve or you feel you need to improve
4) Write down what you did well, because you need to feel confident and remember your strengths to be able to address your failures
5) Learn from your failure and train even more, train for your interviews, learn the unusual questions, improve your CV where it needs to be. Train, train and ask for feedbacks
At the end of the day, I always learnt much more from failures than from successes, and made a lot of progress accordingly.
Failing will happen to everyone, not learning from you failure is what will make the difference. And it will be another good point to show in an interview, another achievement to mention, another story to tell.
Failing from learning IS the real failure¦as long as you will try and will learn from it.
Thanks Laurent
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2 Comments on Handling failure – UPSC is not everything in life
Ganesh
31/10/2010 at 1:10 pm
Yes Very true..!!
But Aspirants should take these failures as SUCCESS..!! All Izz Well..!!
Madmam
09/07/2012 at 8:53 pm
I have failed twice despite hard efforts. I suggest people to have a back up plan in the event of failure. It will hit u hard and u will be lost esp ENGINEERS. Lawyers and Doctors will SURVIVE because they can always practice. ENGINEERS think twice before taking up civils. U can serve your country in any capacity. Dont be influenced by some odd movie and think u can become a hero/heroine. Gettting through is easy compared to surviving in service. Its like walking on thorn. I really cant understand the craze behnd civils even after 2 attempts. I am out of this maddening mania. I have a life after all!!!!